I’ve got some severe chronic stress in my life, and it will
take a long time to recover from it. It’s
good that I know about it, and good that I’m working on bringing balance in my
life. Even with the balance, however, it
will still take a long time, perhaps years, to recover from the years of
emotional and physical pummeling I allowed my mind and body to suffer.
Studies have shown that every single person who has suffered
chronic poverty or homelessness also suffer from some kind of chronic stress
condition. This shouldn’t be surprising,
but it isn’t something that we often think about either. Ninety percent of homeless men suffer from Post-Traumatic
Stress Disorder, and a hundred percent of homeless women. A person who suffered from homeless for more
than a year is a prime candidate for adrenal fatigue. The chronically poor person will often suffer
from a cognitive disorder related to stress, causing one’s attention to only
focus on the short term.
Symptoms of chronic stress disorders might include:
- Insomnia
- Anxiety or depression
- Increased feeling of pain
- Lack of energy
- Increased need for protein and fats
- Decreasing ability to handle stress
- Morning fatigue—inability to feel alert for hours after waking
- Body pains, usually as a result of tensing parts of the body, such as the jaw.
- Overreaction to petty annoyances
- Frequent sighing
- Weight gain or loss without a change in diet
- Self-medicating with drugs or alcohol
- Trouble learning new information
Many of the poor and homeless experience these symptoms,
causing increased mental health issues and more severe physical crises. Also,
the longer one suffers chronic stress from being poor or homeless, the less
likely one will have the cognitive ability to escape such states.
Our society somehow expects the poor and homeless to leave
poverty by increasing the stress load they already experience. If a person has a cognitive breakdown, unable
to function in a modern work environment due to accumulated stress, then they
are called “lazy” instead of what they really are: mentally broken by severe
stress.
If you are poor or homeless and recognize that you are
suffering from this level of extreme stress, there are some things you can
do. We need to recognize this: any
change in our lives has a cost. Any new
discipline takes time or energy or both and if we are going to see improvements
in our lives, we will have to sacrifice something we consider essential in our
lives so we can make an overall change.
I know for me, I realized that I couldn’t keep expressing fury at small
slights, because I was breaking down trust.
The other thing that made me realize that I had to deal with
stress is because the stress I was experiencing was bleeding out to my wife,
children and others I lived with.
Everyone had to deal with my stress, not just me. If I was going to bring health to everyone
(or anyone) I knew, I had to get to a place where I could control myself.
Here are some things that we can do to deal with our stress,
bit by bit. There are no quick answers
here. If we have dealt with (are dealing
with) severe stress for years, it will take years to overcome those symptoms
completely even after we get out of poverty.
This sounds overwhelming, but it’s not.
It just takes time.
1.
Eat differently
In our moments of deep stress (which might
happen parts of every day), our body wants to eat a lot of calories, usually
filled with protein and sugars and fat.
It’s okay to treat ourselves with that every once in a while, but we
need to keep it as a treat, not as a regular part of our diet. There are three ways we can eat differently
that will decrease our stress:
-Eat fewer calories
-Eat frequently and regularly
-Eat more fresh vegetables, less meat and
fats
I know that eating more veggies seems tough
because fresh veggies are expensive. One
thing I’ve found is helpful is that carrots are pretty cheap, tasty and they
are filling. Some folks don’t have the
teeth for carrots, so I’d recommend spinach, which is full of great nutrition
and not expensive if you buy it in a bundle.
If you don’t like spinach plain, throw it in casseroles or sandwiches. Just
look at your grocery store and see what sales you can find.
Again, I know this transition is tough. It’s hard for me, especially the reduced
calories when my body is demanding food to have more energy to deal with the
stress. But you will get used to it
eventually.
2.
Increase activity
This is usually known as “exercising”. The problem with exercising is that we have to
create a time and place to do it, and we might not be able to. But we should just generally be finding ways
to increase our activity. If you have a
car, instead of taking it everywhere, walk.
Or just walk around the block a few times. I found that if I do a few sit-ups or push-ups
in the morning right after I wake up that I’m generally more alert.
But what killed me early on in trying to exercise is doing too much. When we lead a stressful life, what might be
considered a beginner’s pace of exercise will exhaust us, and then we don’t
have the energy to do what we need to the rest of the day. Take it slow, ease into it. Gentle, slow exercise is great to start with,
and then increase it as you feel you are able.
Just don’t quit.
3.
Get in the zone
In my family, full of creative people, we
have what we call “the zone”. It’s a
mind-space, a kind of self-hypnotism, where we can do creative work or deep
thinking. My one daughter writes novels,
another daughter draws, my son paces and listens to music, I write essays, and my
wife reads. When we do this activity,
our primary mind shuts down and we become really focused on our task. I can get in the zone watching movies, or
through prayer, others do this through meditation or listening to music. The important thing is that you aren’t
allowing your mind to “shut off” or to be passive. Rather, we are focusing our energy on one
activity. This can replenish our whole
mind to accomplish all kinds of tasks that we otherwise would be unable to do.
4.
Laugh
Depression is a real thing, and it results in sapping the energy from our
lives, so we feel we can’t do anything.
And enjoying ourselves really helps us build our energy again, if only
for a while. Find someone you really
enjoy being with and spend time with them.
Watch a movie you really enjoy or read an entertaining book. Read stupid puns and jokes until you laugh
out loud. Once you start, you’ll find
there’s a lot of things around you that are funny, even tragic circumstances in
your life. You’ll feel better and have
more building blocks to deal with things in your life. Try not to use alcohol or some other
substance to instill joy in your life, though.
Because while it will temporarily fill this need, the overall cost is
greater than what it gives you, throwing you into a deeper depression.
5.
Get time off of the internet
Most of us have the internet now, and it is great. We are able to communicate with people we
never had before and we have so many more jokes to laugh at. However, spending time on social media also
sucks energy out of our lives. I know
that I would spend time on Facebook in order to feel like I’m connecting with
others while I was also keeping at arm’s length from them. It provided me with a false rest. Recognize that interacting on the internet is
work, although a low-level work. So let’s
take a break from it. Instead of the
internet, read a book, talk to a friend, take a nap. Then get back on. Because you need to…
6.
Get support
Honestly, the best place to find support for your chronic stress issues is the
internet. In general, most people don’t
understand. But there are plenty of
people who do. There is a support group
called “stress.supportgroups.com”. Find
a place you feel comfortable with and an online group that you can vent to, and
they’ll help you and you can help them.
If you can find a doctor or therapist (covered by Obamacare!) or pastor
who can help you out, that’s great, too.
But don’t try to overcome stress yourself. It’s too stressful.
7.
Be grateful
One of the greatest things to give you happiness is to regularly express your
thanks for the people and things and situations that make your life
better. It isn’t enough just to think
about it for a moment. You need to speak
how much you appreciate them. The best
thing is to find a person who has really helped you and express your gratitude
to them. In a letter or in person, but
just do it. After that, think of another
person and do the same thing. You won’t
believe how much better you feel.
8.
Help others
One of the best ways to get out of our own stress is to help others with their
stresses. It is a key building block to
happiness, and it exercises parts of our brain like compassion and hope that we
might not otherwise be able to utilize.
It may be we can cook something for a friend, or seek to volunteer at a
place that has helped us out. But we
will find our stresses reduce when we think about how to improve other’s lives.
One last thing I want to mention. Any organizations out there that help the
poor or the homeless, hear me out. Part
of our main task should be to reduce the stress of our guests. If we give them too many hoops to jump
through, especially when they are unnecessary, we aren’t helping them, but
piling on stresses that make their lives more difficult. Let’s provide entertainment for them. Let’s see if we can give them breaks. Let’s help them with better food and
opportunities to volunteer. But most of
all, let’s be gentle and hopeful.
